I’ve pretty much always been a girlie-girl. When I was little, while the other kids were singing, “Head and shoulders, knees and toes, knees and toes,” I was singing something more like, “Head, new hairdo, purse and shoes, purse and shoes.”
Froo-froo is part of my make-up. Even my makeup is part of my make-up. I was in a hurry and ran out of the house without eyeliner the other day.
People are definitely not used to seeing me liner-less, but even I underestimated their consternation. All day long they kept asking if I was feeling okay. “Have you been under the weather?” “Do you need to go home?”
Because, yeah, everyone knows the first sign of an illness is the loss of dark lines around the eyes.
Some weren’t even that nice. “Something’s wrong with your face.” “You look terrible.” “You’re not contagious, right?” Fortunately, I knew what to take for the illness. The medicine for acute linerlessness is … liner.
Give me 20 cc’s of eyeliner, STAT!
Much more important though, what do we do when people seem bent on asking hurtful questions and saying unkind things during the holidays? Sometimes people say things that are thoughtless but not necessarily intentional. Other times their words are cruelly calculated to wound.
Our knee-jerk reaction to either is often defensive. Our minds are suddenly scrambling to come up with a line or two that will put that person in his place. We feel driven to give him a taste of his own medicine, as it were.
The real medicine? It’s mercy. We’re called to extend it — STAT — even to those who’ve been intentionally malicious. Not an eye for an eye (or eyeliner for eyeliner either).
Offering mercy and forgiveness isn’t easy when there’s unsettled injustice hanging in the air. Our pride steps in and wants to demand we get the respect we feel we’re due. We’re ever to stand up for truth. But we aren’t always required to seek justice for ourselves.
Just as it did with Jesus, sometimes mercy overrides justice. Jesus tells us Himself to “love your enemies, do what is good, and lend, expecting nothing in return. Then your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High.
For He is gracious to the ungrateful and evil. Be merciful, just as your Father also is merciful” (Luke 6:35-36, HCSB).
We tend to think, I’ll show mercy once that rascal earns it. Yet we need to remember our call to offer God’s kind of mercy. He gave it freely to us when we were powerless to earn it. Then we need to remember Jesus’ command again to show mercy “just as your Father” does.
It’s only by His grace that we’re able to show that mercy, to take the high road to rise above an irritation and to take the higher road and forgive an offense.
Lord, help us to see people who’ve hurt us with Your eyes. At every place, we feel powerless to love and forgive, empower us by the indwelling presence of Your Holy Spirit. Give us the ability to love people, not because they’re worthy of our love, but because You’ve told us to love them, and You are more than worthy of our obedience. Let us love people, Lord, out of overwhelming love for You.
Our God is faithful. He can answer that prayer in ways that amaze us entirely and radically change the way we love and the way we live.
You might not believe your eyes. Or eyeliners.
Got Lemons? Make Bundt Cake Recipe with Penelope Carlevato
1 pkg (15.25 oz) Duncan Hines Lemon Supreme cake mix
1 pkg (3.4 oz) instant lemon pudding mix
1 cup sour cream
½ cup vegetable oil
½ cup lemon juice
Zest from 3 lemons
½ tsp vanilla
Grease well and flour a Bundt pan
Preheat oven to 350º F
In a large mixing bowl, combine cake mix and lemon pudding mix with a whisk.
Add the sour cream, eggs, oil, juice, zest, and vanilla and combine for one minute with electric mixer on low speed. Using a spatula, scrape bottom and sides of bowl. Continue beating for 3 minutes on medium speed. Pour batter into the prepared Bundt pan.
Bake on middle rack of oven for about 45 minutes. Check if cake is done by inserting a toothpick into the center of the cake. If it comes out clean, cake is done.
Remove cake from oven and cool on a metal rack in the pan for about 10 minutes, then remove cake from the pan by placing a large plate over the top of the cake pan and inverting. Let cool completely on the rack before frosting.
8-ounce cream cheese, softened
2 cups powdered sugar
1 – 2 Tab lemon zest
1 teaspoon lemon juice
- Combine the cream cheese, sugar, zest and lemon juice. Beat with electric mixer on high speed until smooth and creamy.
- Place the frosting into a piping bag or into a large baggie and cut a hole in the corner of the bag.
- On cooled cake, pipe the frosting over the top of the cake and sprinkle lemon zest over the cake. If desired, garnish the cake plate with lemon slices.
PENELOPE CARLEVATO is author of “Tea on the Titanic.” Recipe included in Leading Hearts magazine Leadinghearts.com
Article appeared in Leading Hearts magazine leadinghearts.com